Men on Top

Ladies, is it possible to imagine anything more erotically decadent and luxurious than being on the bottom? No, no, no! I'm no talking about being the bottom a-la bdsm! I'm talking about being on the bottom—literally—laying back on that big old bed and letting him do all the hard yakka and sweating while you close your eyes and just enjoy it all. Yes, good o' fashioned him on top of her sex!

In years gone, I guess it was considered rather unmanly for a man to allow a woman to be on top. Oh sure, I'm sure it went on, but I'm also sure it wasn't ever talked about, especially amongst the fairer sex. In fact I would wager it would have been thought of as rather kinky. Women, or more correctly—'ladies', just weren't meant to get aroused sufficiently to want take a man sexually. It was considered unnatural for a woman to feel that way. In The Merchant's Tale, Chaucer described an aroused woman as "mannish". And, in Tom Jones, Henry Fielding declared, "I dare to swear the wench was willing as he!"

So, is it 'mannish', or in appropriate, for a woman to take control during sex and place herself on top?

Well, of course it damn well is!

Men are physically stronger than women, they're meant to be the active partner during sex. It's the way they're built—strong arms and legs for supporting themselves over their delicate and venerated women. Women,on the other hand, have soft cushiony butts to rest back on during sex and bodies that are soft and smooth—ideal for pumping up and down on.

I think it just dandy that men have discovered that women don't lose half their brain cells when they get married; that their perfectly capable of balancing a cheque book, and equally qualified to assess and have a say in how their country is run. It is, however, rather disappointing to me that women's liberation has spoilt certain aspects of sex.

Once upon a time sex was no effort at all for us women. It was all lay back and enjoy, "Take me. Take me! I'm yours!" Now, thanks to the likes of the Blue Stocking Brigade, he wants a piece of the action, or rather lack of it, too! It's just not fair! I tell you, I want to see women liberated from this kind of women's liberation!

Ok, so, maybe life isn't always fair? Maybe it isn't all about getting what you want? If it was, I'd be laying naked on a topical island, an icey margarita in one hand and fan in the other, while Ben Affleck (also naked) laid on top of me panting, sweating, and working his cute little butt off as....

Ah, but I digress.

Well, I still want see men back on top, exactly where they belong, serving and pleasuring women everywhere!

But, seriously, do you believe women's movement has helped or hindered our sex lives? Are men sometimes perhaps intimidated by women with a sex drives as strong, or stronger than their own, or do most find it a big turn on? Does it perhaps depend on how secure the man is with his own sexuality?

I really don't want to get too personal here, but what do you think about it? :)


Footnote: Surveys show that men generally support "women's issues," more than women do! They (surveys) also show that women generally believe women's liberation has benefited men more then women. That is, women have assumed more responsibility for financially supporting the family than men have assumed for caring for the house and family. Hochschild (1989) interviewed 50 two-career couples and found that the women worked 15 hours more each week than their husbands did.